According to designer Anjali Phougat, love has less to do with a loved one’s involvement in our life and more to do with how content and satisfied they are. She claims that her definition of love is not having someone.
“For me, love is an unrestricted sense of contentment and happiness. For me, love is witnessing happiness in the lives of those I cherish. Being with someone only because I love them, or having them, is not something I believe in. If they are happy where they are, even if they are not actively involved in my life, that is sufficient in her opinion.
“I don’t believe in days,” she adds in reference to Valentine’s Day. I mean, it’s only an additional day, and I don’t limit my Valentine’s Day celebrations to my spouse. Together with my dog, my kid, and my coworkers, we celebrate it as a family. That’s simply how I work.
She goes on to say that love evolves as we mature. “Love evolves and expands, and so does the bond between you and your partner. It is more of an obligation that follows marriage than it is affection. For me, love after marriage is when we respect one another, cooperate with one another, and accept one another’s choices. The concept of celebrating love is lovely as, as she puts it, “life is nothing without love, so we should celebrate,”
“We should always have that zeal, passion, fun, and something that gives us excitement in our lives,” she continues, adding that love is enjoyable. What I’m discovering is that love requires distance and letting go. Being emotionally detached from someone or something is what love is all about. The scenario attracts and moves towards us when we don’t try to control the person we love.”